Only You Get To Pick What Defines You

by | Oct 14, 2021

This week, we are talking about how is it that you give away your power from your Emotionally Fit Room.

Let’s think about that for a moment. What are the ways in which we do give away our power emotionally? Part of that is that we all want to be accepted, we all want to feel “part of” don’t we?

However, the truth is that if my focus is for you to approve of me, if my focus is on you pleasing me, then what happens is I become a chameleon. Have you ever done that? I know I have.

Many years ago I was a chameleon and I became whatever you wanted me to be because I wanted you to like me, to approve of me. So much so, that I sacrificed me, I sacrificed who I was in the process.

So what I’d like you to be thinking about over the next 7 days (you know me and “the 7 days”), is where in fact, emotionally, are you giving away your power:

  • Are you focusing on the approval of others?
  • Are you letting someone else decide if you are good enough?
  • Are you allowing others to determine if you are contributing enough?
  • Are you not loving yourself enough?

You see, emotionally, what can happen is that if I’m not mindful of that power that I am giving away, it’s eroding:

  • my self-confidence
  • my sense of peace
  • how I see the world
  • how I love myself

For me, the number 1 way we are giving away our power is by not loving ourselves enough.

The days where I am definitely investing in myself, the days where I am making sure that my affirmations, that my mantras are very positive and very affirming, then really, what others say or do is irrelevant to me, like water off a duck’s back. I just think that “Wow, they must really be hurting if they think that would be okay to talk to me that way or to treat me that way”.

So, in your Emotionally Fit Room let’s be thinking over the next 7 days, where in fact are you giving away your power? And then STOP IT!!

I know it sounds way more simple than it is. But I want you to catch yourself and notice that:

  • you aren’t feeling good about this
  • you are giving away your power to a group of people like your boss, a colleague, or even a family member
  • it isn’t serving you well

This happens because I falsely believe that what they say to me somehow defines who I am. And that’s a lie!

You get to pick what defines you.

I’d love it if you could let me know what you are going to try in the comments. It is so wonderful when we can all share and learn together.

BE more kind to yourself.
BE more compassionate.
Be more forgiving.
Be more loving.

Remember, you are a Powerhouse.

Wishing you a powerful week.

Resilient Leadership Speaker, Author, Coach & Retreat Facilitator

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